Showing posts with label reflections. Show all posts
Showing posts with label reflections. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 28, 2024

on the streets where we live



“I need an update on the state of the crèche.” I make this request when I spot Ian peering into the street below from the terrace. We now know the 4WD ute, parked in the street just below our place every evening, operates as a child minding service. The children who often occupy it happily skylark, shout, play and eat instead of being on the road. I was sorry to know clamps were being removed from it by the police early one morning but glad that this run of local businesses with young, working women have a small, safe urban playground for their children and a grannie who oversees and engages those children, at least until their own grannies arrive to take them home. That’s the primary use for the back of the ute. There are always at least three and sometimes many more kids so while it might not be ideal it’s better than nothing and certainly an ingenious solution to a problem that is not going anywhere anytime soon.



There is a foreigner who walks these streets daily: something we also do but with very different intent. We have spotted him while returning home from the market in the early morning, wandering back from a riverside stroll and on our way to and from many local places we frequent. He looks clean and pretty well dressed and often has one arm in a makeshift sling, created from a krama. Several times in the late afternoon we have noticed him quickly scoop something up and stash it in the sling. Finally we realized he was taking the offerings made at the temporary, street side altars many local businesses set up on the footpath, at the entrance or on a table nearby, for their businesses. It’s a daily practice and no one really seems to react or mind that he does this. “Is he really destitute?” I hear the naysayer in me ask. Some mornings he is out wandering without his sling and at least a couple of times we have seen him quietly sharing a beer with a mate in one of the many bars nearby, as we ourselves have been known to do. I’m not judging. It’s just an enigma. 



Recently a friend enlightened us about the wobbly financial scenarios many young Khmer are entangled in. There are tales of exploitation by loan sharks, accountants taking advantage of the loop holes and minimum transparency in the banking system and dubious community based financial arrangements between locals. In a society where so many are financially vulnerable or locked into generational poverty, this kind of predator behaviour sickens me. Financial literacy which might help avoid those kinds of traps and help people see the inherent danger in over burdening themselves with loan repayments, isn’t easily accessed and no doubt costs money those who need it most can’t afford. I’m no wiz kid on the financial management front myself and tend to oscillate between absolute frugality and unnecessary indulgence. However I do realize one can get into very difficult financial situations by refusing to compromise about what is actually affordable. Realistically the micro finance business is unscrupulous and leaves people with debts they might not be able to pay off before the next financial crisis hits.  That situation won’t negate the debt and so the spiral begins. 






Monday, May 27, 2024

The future- philosophically pondering the prospects


“What will become of us?”


This is a question we have asked ourselves forever, from China days and well beyond. Those days seem like a daze now. From the heady investments of working in Japan, to indulging in following dreams with a minimum of security later in Thailand, then the disastrous disappointment of Tanzania and finally back to beautiful Bhutan where the love affair with the people, the place and the culture will last our lifetimes. 


When we began to see that the welfare state was over and that we didn’t have the requisite attitude or desire to accrue enough to support retirement, alternative plans were laid.But how long is a piece of string? How much will be enough? Who can say?


Resistance to change and risk is a topic that arises for discussion in this digital age. Addiction to it is not! Is that where we are at? I don’t think so, but clarity is not easy. 


In a world where AI is compelling, profit is motive and obstacles and challenges uncontrollably overwhelming for so many, values and passion have become underrated and irrelevant. 


Now the question is different. 



Neither one of us wants to become the “one man standing.” However, now we avoid discussing that issue. It’s not analysed or planned for.It’s not a future either of us wants to consider. 


We are a team. We operate in an interdependent domain relying on each other constantly. We don’t want to imagine it otherwise. Nonetheless that is 
what it will become. 



It’s not, “What will become of us?.…. but, “Don’t let it be me,” that becomes the worry. But that very well may be decades or just days away! No-one can say.


Live in the present! What else is there in reality. 



Written 10/3 

Saturday, May 18, 2024

Pangri Zampa Monastery and Astrology Institute revisited!


Sunday Funday

Such a red-letter day.



Finally a chance to get back to Pangri Zampa and a chance to see how it has evolved. It is a tranquil sanctuary, just as we remembered it but now it is much more expansive and so thoroughly renovated.


Projects are still underway and obviously significant ‘Khempos’ are coming and teaching. While on our previous visits, it was hardly possible to sight a monk. It was at that time a sleepy, secluded and spectacular institute for the studies of astrology, not a thriving monk body with guidance and eminent teachers. Or at least that is the way it came across to us. 

                                                     

Shortly after arriving, we were invited into the room containing butter lamps and encouraged to light the last three ourselves. What a lovely gesture and of course we made a donation to ensure more butter lamps would be made and offered.



That in itself brightened my day and was almost the most positive change we have seen in Bhutan this time round.


Emerging from the room containing the burning butter lamps we discovered the taxi driver who had dropped us there was waiting outside, pointing at his bank account in his phone and muttering Nu. 200. After some confusion, both of us assuming that the electronic payment Ian had made was insufficient, he finally produced his wallet and refunded Ian that much money. We had in fact overpaid him and he had returned to find us to correct the imbalance! Well that was a first and certainly helped to restore our faith in humanity after recent events. 



We saw many, many more young monks in the monastery this time and they were both well behaved and looking exceedingly happy. It couldn’t help but transport me back to our much-loved Little Monks of Kep and the times we all shared. We still miss them. 

The courtyard was abuzz with anticipation and we observed the arrival of an obviously revered religious leader of the monk body. All the monks then silently followed him to a nearby hall and we continued our rather aimless rambling about their silent, serene and spectacular campus.



I’m grateful for the few days like this that are possible. When the connection to place, people and culture restores your inner calm and brings solace.  


And, also the foresight to try again and persist with one of the most magnificent and memorable experiences of previous times living in the capital.


Our last attempt was such a disaster that we started the day with trepidation and are so relieved to have ended it in jubilation. 


We walked over half the way back into Thimphu and felt both refreshed and revived after our thoroughly joyful morning and homemade picnic brunch in the beautiful grounds of the Astrology Institute.



Follow your heart! It is the path to happiness.




Monday, February 12, 2024

2023 Reflections and Recollections

2023 Reflections and Recollections


This has been quite some time in the making.  We have been on a whirlwind ride. Rollercoastering to another time and place. So much of me needs to believe in honesty, simplicity and faith right now. I understand reflection again.

 

10 Highlights - accomplishments and best memories:



*Starting the year in Adelaide and visiting Mt Gambier



*Expanding the cultural events, we attend to include more films, performances, exhibitions and festivals.



*travelling to, around and back from Vietnam on the surface: Slow travel without flying.



*Connecting more and more often with genuine friends and making new friends from diverse cultural, generational and social backgrounds in Cambodia.



*Having Barry visit several times and Shelley coming for the first time and some of that time overlapping. 



*Playing Table Tennis again and generally being fitter and healthier by swimming, walking and exercising more. As a result seeing the vast improvement in my strength, flexibility and balance.

*Increasing the alcohol-free days and making a genuine attempt to drink less as well as less often.



*happy recipient who didn't even know snail mail was possible!



*Beginning the snail mail revival project and ensuring that the messages our mail contain not only tell our story but also express the appreciation we have for our connection to those who receive them.



*Participating in the Xmas celebration at The Sisters Missionaries of Charity School and the pre-event packing.



*Sonya finally making it to Cambodia and we the travelling trio having so many adventures and so much fun together.

 

 

5 Disappointments -

Failures and messed up opportunities;

 

*Bhutan not coming to fruition despite the best efforts and intentions of so many

*Knowing we have fewer genuine friends with similar passions, values and lifestyles here than in any other country, where  we have lived.



*Seeing and hearing less and less about the little monks and knowing nothing about their learning journey.

*Ian missing out on the Xmas volunteering due to getting Covid a second time.

*Still not being able to repair the stairs, even though more neighbours are prepared to contribute to the cost.

 

  *Though that has indeed changed since I began writing this and genuine improvements and repairs have already begun.

 

3 Game Changers -

Unexpected things that changed your priorities:

 

*Discovering new ways to volunteer and contribute to our local communities and individuals.

*Realising that although the stairs are a challenge as a result of that daily workout they have also greatly contributed to our improved strength, balance and mobility.

*Discovering new ways to connect to likeminded people.

 

3 Areas of Focus -

What you spent most of your time on:



*improving my mental and physical health and wellbeing and expanding the variety of healthy, homemade food we cook

*Breaking old habits and meaningless routines in favour of living in the present and appreciating the flexibility of the ways we can spend our time in retirement.

*Writing reflective, analytical and researched pieces for my blog and not just journaling and chronicling our lives.

 

 

3 Things you forgot -

What you did not get around to:

 

*Sorting and storing photographs from the many trips we have made.



*Disposing appropriately of all the camera equipment we have but no longer use, as our phones are more convenient and produce reasonable quality images.



*Continuing to study and write Chinese lapsed as I focused on other new skills and given that I am a language nerd I should readopt this practice.

 

 

 

Reflections -

How does this inform your plans for this year? :

 


*Connection to others is hugely important. Making and maintaining friendships positively impacts my own mental health. Realising the value of old friendships and accepting that connection over long distance and not in person is significant, valuable and supportive, has been a game changer for me personally, whilst simultaneously deciding to not always be the one to reach out and instead letting go of false friends, has really helped me prioritise what is important and avoid of the nastiness of others. This gives me more perspective and allows me to prioritise myself too.

 



*For me, it is essential to continue to be passionate about maintaining a slow, simple, sustainable and secure lifestyle and keep looking for ways to lessen the environmental and social impact of our actions. Activism without action is actually just hot air.

 


*Dreams, aspirations and plans are as essential as living mindfully. It is only by working towards an objective, facing the challenges and disappointments that the satisfaction of achieving your goal can be fully appreciated. The setbacks and failures are all part of the process and teach us practical lessons and give us insights into who we really are at a fundamental level.